They said that because they were hurting inside

A way to navigate through rude comments

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Have you ever had an experience where someone said something to you, and for years and years, you couldn’t get that out of your mind? You kept being affected by it.

I mean, something mean that someone had said. It had such an impact that you identified yourself with it then, and no matter how much you tried, it still played itself again and again whenever you were not feeling well, adding to the aggravation of the situation you were already in.

So why does that happen? Have you ever wondered?

I also had similar instances in my life and as the introvert person that I am, I couldn’t answer that person. I couldn’t stand up for myself in that moment. And later, when I came home, I thought, “Okay, I should have said that,” or “I should have said something else—something that would tell the other person that they shouldn’t step on my boundaries.”

But the thing is, people will step on your boundaries no matter what you do.

The real game-changer is when you learn the fact that you are you, and they did what they did. They will keep doing what they do.

The negative thing that they said reveals about them being hurt inside. It has nothing to do with you.